Staying Focused

Since Kimberly has been here she has accomplished one big project in her own life. She got divorced from a marriage which was stifling both parties. She got out of a town which was also holding her back immensely. She has accomplished a lot here around the house and yard and in Ligonier. But it really is time for her to quit delaying the rest of the big issues in her life. It's been a year and a half and it is time for her to focus, and I told her that. She keeps letting other issues distract her, and I told her she has to stop doing this.

1. She needs to get the remaining issues from the marriage and her bankruptcy taken care of.
2. She needs to change her name legally.
3. She needs to get a part-time job to start saving for her future expenses.
4. She needs to get back in school to retrain as a counselor.
5. She needs to have the surgery, electrolysis, voice training and whatever else and complete her transition.

Her counselor told her she needs to stay in a stable relationship. The counselor is right. I explained to her how lucky she is given her situation. She is living with someone who supports her transition and will not hinder her in what she has to do regarding surgery and the other procedures, and will actually help her. She is living in a house which is paid for and the vehicles here are paid for. She is living with someone who is willing to work for a living and who is not going to ask HER for the financial support. She is living with someone who is willing to live with a student for several years. She has wonderful counselors and doctors free of charge who will help her through this. She needs to accept that she is in the best situation she could possibly be in under the circumstances and get going on all these important goals. She needs to stop getting sidetracked on issues to delay her focus on the big things and she needs to just put up with minor irritations and not blow them out of proportion.